Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Rant...part II...
Ok, I'm just going to be brutally honest here...I'm just finding that all the guys that I think may (and I stress MAY) have potential don't seem to see the same thing in me! So maybe it is me! Maybe I am giving off the wrong impression; maybe I'm not sending out the right vibe! The thing is...I'm just trying to be honest and maybe that's what I'm doing wrong. Maybe I should act as if I don't care; maybe I should pretend that all I'm after is something short term. But I can't. I've lived 36 years as a single man, and I now would prefer that I had someone to spend my Sunday mornings with. Is that wrong? It seems that most of my friends have managed to find someone...but still, I feel like I'm judged because I am actively looking! I can't help it. Sorry, but my name is Monty and I'm single and would like to change that. So sue me for being so upfront about it. All my friends seemed to be looking for "the one" and managed to do it...why is it that when I do it, suddenly the tables turn and I should "just let it happen"?
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Monty babe
The right guy is definitely out there for you. It sometimes takes a while for you to find each other. You aint doing nothing wrong.
I so hope that you find each other in 2008. There aint nothing wrong with being proactive. I still remember being rejected by many guys and that was hurtful and frustrating. Keep those gorgeous eyes of yours open...or perhaps i should come over there to Sydney to play the matchmaker!
Sending you hugs across the Tasman,
Kev in NZ
Hey Monty, This may sound harsh but I believe that it has to be said. Don't share your experiences (Good or bad) and you will not receive any judgemental feedback. You adore Muzbot, a mutant newt could work that out, look at what he reports on his blog.... NOTHING too personal, hence no judgement. Just experience your life, ask friends for advice (by Phone or e-mail) if you think that will help. This medium doesn't seem to help your cause from what I've read lately.
McDreamy.
Hey Monty. Try not to be too bogged down in other people's expectations (or what you perceive as such) and live the life you want to live. If you are keen to settle down and aren't interested in short term relationships then that's your perogative. I understand the frustration but try not to beat yourself up about it. Good luck.
Monty. Really? Were all your friends looking for the one? Have you asked them if they were? Have you heard some quirky stories from couples about how they met? Did some people get together by chance or by some sort of weird stroke of fate?
I for one don't think you cshould cast such sweeping generalisations about relationships like you have. Every relationship is different and especially the way two people "find each other" is often very unique. Maybe they weren't activly looking for "the one". Maybe, just maybe, things do just happen.
Be true to yourself. Be happy for who you are. Be happy that you'll have the chance to meet many people in the years to come. You're lucky to be able to get these things off your chest here on your blog, and you're lucky to have some very kind readers. You are also lucky to have a healthy life ahead of you to experience so much, and you never know, one experience may just be meeting a nice lad.
Muz, you have a point. I shouldn't make sweeping generalisations...some of my friends were looking, some did have the quirky stories. I'm in a bit of a ranting mood at the moment, and ranting does tend to lead to generalisations. It is good to have this blog, and it is even better that my readers are nice people. I am enjoying life, and the experiences that I'm having and hoping that as I do meet guys (in whatever way that it happens), I'll meet the right guy! Thanks for the feedback Muz. :-)
Hi Monty
my 2 cents is = you can not control fate so just enjoy the ride. You may for eg. meet someone as part of your new get fit regime at the gym or thru your new position at work or just perhaps by chance who may or may not eventually turn out to be Mr Right. Certainly the more desperate you appear to newbies the more likely they will run a mile so just keep cool and relax.
*Hugs* Tom
In the words of Catherine Tate's 'Nan':
'Monty - take a fuckin chill pill!'
How can you be so self-indulgent? Stop brooding and analysing - its fine to be self reflective, but there is a limit.
You are a warm hearted, thoughtful attractive guy who has a lot to be grateful for.
If Mr. Right has not appeared yet, then so be it - make the most of having lots of 'you' time!
I never want to see such words on your blog again!! Otherwise I will have to issue a detention or two!
: ))
Whoa.. someone obviously got out of the wrong side of the bed.
Deep breaths kiddo.
Screw everyone.. you carry on looking.. just be happy as you go about your day.. but Benji seriously.. don't get worked up in a frenzy or anything. It'll happen... just chill.. or you'll just have a heart-attack or something.
Kool?
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