Another meme...

This pic is a couple of years old...

Stole this Meme off Phil...

A is for age: 36
B is for booze: Absolutely!
C is for career: Personal Banker
D is for dad's name: Ray
E is for essential items to bring to a party: Champers of course
F is for favorite song at the moment: SexBomb - Tom Jones (sad, I know)
G is for guy: Love 'em...would like one at the moment...
H is for hometown: Townsville, Qld...escaped in 1990 (thank goodness)
I is for instruments you play: Violin (or at least, I used to play)
J is for jam or jelly you like: Apricot
K is for kids: None of my own, 1 nephew and 2 nieces
L is for living arrangements: Live on the North Shore, live by myself
M is for mom's name: Dorothy
N is for name: ummmm, Monty
O is for overnight hospital stays: About 36 yrs ago, when I was born.
P is for phobia[s]: No medically diagnosed ones...but I hate cockroaches
Q is for quote you like: "Do I make you horny baby, do I?" - ahhh, ya gotta love Austin Powers
R is for relationship that lasted the longest: 10 years...with my hairdresser. But as for romantic relationships...hmmm, about 4 weeks! Eeek!
S is for sexual position: A boy has to have some secrets...
U is for unique trait: An ever changing (as in on a daily basis) hair style
V is for vegetable you love: Sweet potato
W is for worst trait: A tendency to fall for guys who aren't falling for me!
X is for x-rays you've had: The usual dental ones, and an MRI
Y is for yummy food you make: Beer up the bum chicken of course! I'm world famous for it! :-)
Z is for zodiac sign: Aries (but it doesn't mean anything to me)

...and yes, there's no T...don't know why!

Firsts..
First job: Postage clerk
First screen name: bankerbj (and before you say anything, the "bj" bit are my initials and not anything else your smutty minds may come up with)
First funeral: My great uncle's - I was about 8 yrs old
First piercing: Haven't had any - probably never will...have a low pain threshold.
First tattoo: None...yet...
First credit card: David Jones' card...of course!
First kiss: Sheesh...this is getting personal...first proper kiss would be Andy, July 1, 1999 (I was a late starter)
First enemy: Hmmm, there's not anyone I can think of that I would call an enemy. I think hate is such a negative emotion which is more work than it's worth.
First favorite musician: Abba :-)

Lasts..

Last car ride: Sunday, coming home from the beach house
Last kiss: Bruce, last week - he's a good kisser, even if he doesn't put out! LOL
Last movie watched: Beaches (McDreamy brought down to the beach house every tear jerker girlie movie he could find)
Last beverage drank: WellBeing smoothie...yummmmmo!
Last food consumed: Dinner last night!
Last time showered: this morning
Last CD played: Rudebox - Robbie Williams
Last website visited: the website for our Paris hotel - booked our accommodation! yay!





Now..


Sex: Male
Birthday: 10 April 1971
Sign: Didn't I answer this already?
Siblings: 2 brothers - both older
Hair color: Medium Brown with blonde highlights (sounds so gay doesn't it)
Eye color: Green/blue
Shoe size: 7 1/2
Height: 5'9" (175 cm)
Clothes: Suit, shirt, tie, socks and my new boots! (I'm at work)
Hair: ummm, it's looking rather stylish today
Makeup: Does moisturiser count?
Emotion: excited (about my holiday) and not particuarly stressed by all this work that I have yet to do...
Boyfriend: I wish!





Future..
In an hour: Lunch
Tomorrow: Same as today really
Next week: ditto
Next month: I'll be in London, one day away from Cairo! wahoooo!
Next year: Hopefully settled with the man of my dreams!
5 years from now: Much more settled with aforesaid man of my dreams!!
10 years from now: Really settled with aforesaid man of my dreams!!!

Happy Birthday McDreamy...

It's my dear friend McDreamy's birthday today so feel free to drop on by his blog to read his story and wish him well. He's become, in a very short space of time, a big part of my life. He's my doctor, the boyfriend of my lovely friend Evan, and a good mate - and his musical taste is very similar to mine (which poor Evan has to cope with, with such good grace and humour) which makes for lots of fun whenever we go away for the weekend! :-)

Love ya to bits McDreamy - hope you had a lovely night last night, a great week ahead, and an even better 38th year!!!

Monty! xxx

Up up and away...part II...

I'm starting to get very excited now! I have less than 3 weeks of work left before I'm on 6 weeks' holiday and just over 4 weeks before I actually fly out of Sydney. I posted a blog a couple of weeks ago about booking my London flights with Virgin Atlantic and over the course of the last couple of days, have booked more flights for the other legs of my journey.

So far...

4 Oct Depart Sydney
5 Oct Arrive London
13 Oct Fly to Cairo
17 Oct Return to London
31 Oct Fly to Paris
4 Nov Return to London
8 Nov Depart London
10 Nov Arrive Sydney

There may be one more side trip to take between the 17th and 31st Oct but I've yet to work that out.

There's so much I am looking forward to - seeing my brother Mark and his B/F Simon again (I'm staying with them whilst in London so I expect to be seeing quite a lot of them), seeing one of my oldest friends (Marie) again, seeing Matt again, meeting Darth Gateau, Guy In London, CuteCTGuy and possibly one or two other London bloggers, seeing more of London, Paris and Cairo and surrounds, and the highlight of course will be spending time in Cairo and Paris with my lovely friend EIB. It will be almost exactly 12 months since we last saw each other and I'm really hanging out to see him again and have some major chats with him! And giving (and receiving) the last 12 months' worth of hugs that we owe each other. Both he and I (esp me) have been through some fairly significant stuff over the past year and our regular Sunday chats have been a great source of advice and reassurance (and lots of laughs) which has really cemented our friendship! Can't wait!!!

Quick update...

OK OK, I'm being harassed left right and centre about my, errrm, abstinent lifestyle with Bruce. It's now been 4 weeks since my last shag and I've decided that I'm going to have to get me a shag. It's not going to happen with Bruce; I just get the feeling he's not ready for it, and perhaps will never be, with me anyway. I think he's a smashing guy, but I think I shall have to wind back a bit on how much I see him. The thing is, when I am with him, I'm having fun, and don't mind just sleeping with him. But, yes, Monty is still human after all and has needs! So, if Bruce isn't going to put out, then I shall have to find me another man! Which means either hanging out in bars (soooo not appealing at the moment) or back to Gaydar dating. Alas, my useless PC at home has now officially carked it and so I can't log onto GD! Oh, the quandary!!! I have to take it to a man to fix this weekend, but until then, it's going to be a loooooong week! Thankfully, I'm seeing Bruce on Wednesday night which will be enough to keep me distracted, but will also increase the level of my ummm, need! Hmmmm, I think I should have had me a back-up plan!

APEC and other miscellaneous mutterings...

It's APEC week here in the Emerald City and nothing really seemed that different on Monday and Tuesday to be honest. However, today I walked out at lunch time and the city seemed so empty! Maybe everyone is busy protesting, maybe they're all just avoiding the city now that George W Bush (and his entourage) is in town. But it was very strange walking down the footpaths and in the stores without battling the usual lunchtime crowds.



This is dangerous for Monty, as I did go into Myer at lunchtime - I needed to purchase a relatively inexpensive photo frame and so thought one from Myer would do. I waltzed into Myer, up the mostly empty escalator, turned and my eyes fell upon a sign advertising a 20% discount on shoes! Well, a couple of hundred dollars later, I had purchased myself a pair of lovely black boots and I continued up the escalator. I did get my photo frame (also 25% off) but then, I wandered into the DVD/CD section (Myer is a department store for all of our non-Aussie readers). And so I ended up buying myself a CD as well. So, the plan had been a $12 photo frame and instead, $250 poorer, I walked out of the store! Don't you just love those expeditions!



Bruce update (yes, I know that's what you're really wanting to hear about) - we had a lovely night out last night - just had a bottle of wine with dinner at the White Horse Inn then toddled over to this smashing little Italian place for dessert (magnificent Panna Cotta) with a lovely Yalumba Botrytis Viognier. We then stumbled back to his place and went to bed. I think we've achieved quite a good equilibrium in our relationship now - we had a great night out, there's no awkwardness between us; in bed, we fit well together. It's funny, I normally sleep on the right hand side of the bed. So does Bruce. And so, whenever we've slept together (which is getting to be quite a lot of times), I've slept on the left hand side. Last night, he got in on the left hand side - and so I was quite excited about sleeping on the right hand side. But get this - I couldn't sleep! I was snuggled up to him (naturally) but just could not get comfortable. Half way through the night, he got up to go to the loo, and so I slid over to the other side and when he got back into bed, I snuggled back up to him and it just felt right this time. And of course, I went straight to sleep! I've realized that I can't sleep with him unless I'm on the left hand side of the bed! I can't believe this has happened, but it's amazing how it does! I've got to say, I've not enjoyed sleeping with someone more - and that is despite the fact that there's no shagging happening. In fact, I'm beginning to think it's because there's no shagging, that it's so good. It certainly gives our relationship a different dynamic - which is very much working for both of us.

PS...

I just thought I'd add a small'ish comment after receiving feedback last night and today about my post of yesterday. Firstly, I hope I didn't come across as being negative or distraught, as I'm not. Yes, I'd like to see more develop but I'm not desperate to have a boyfriend NOW! I am really really liking what Bruce and I currently have, and so Tom, I agree, no need to rush - I'm content to let things just happen or not happen as the case may be. Worst case, I've found myself a friend, best case...who knows! A snuggle buddy is a great thing to have and he's sensational at snuggling! Over the next four weeks, I look forward to getting to know him better and better and then, when I return, hopefully, we can resume where we left off and go from there!

Thanks everyone for your care and concern! But no need to worry! Monty is in a good space at the moment! :-)

And this is the picture that my employer has used for my internal Directory listing. Not sure whether I like it or not...

As Good As It Gets...?

This is a bit of a miscellaneous blog really, as there's a couple of things on my mind.


Firstly, I'm cheesed off with my home PC, as it's got narky and decided not to work! Extremely frustrating as I cannot now access my Hotmail account which is my main personal email address nor can I access Gaydar. This (GD) has not been as vital, as my time is otherwise occupied but still, I'm a popular boy - I like to keep my fingers in the dating pie so to speak.


Speaking of which, I had a lovely and most unexpectedly involved weekend with Bruce. Originally, we had intended on meeting up on Friday night - he had a work Do on, and I was attending a charity Trivia night with Evan and McDreamy and we were going to meet later on. As it turned out, his work Do was boring as, and so he came early and joined our Trivia table. And of course, won the major raffle prize (3 nights accommodation at some hotel on Bondi Beach) and a random prize (a champagne bucket). I got to keep the champers bucket! But I digress. Original plan was for me to spend Friday night at his place and that was it for the weekend - we weren't going to see one another after that. Saturday morning came and went with me still in his bed, eventually being dragged out at 12.15 for a shopping expedition in the city. Let me tell you, this man can shop!!! I'm a fan! And he loves my favourite store, David Jones'! What a man! He was originally going to drop me home after that however instead, invited me to go out with him to another charity thing that he was attending...believe it or not, another Trivia night! Not being one to pass up a Trivia night (and more particuarly, to spend more time with him), I agreed! Another fun night was had and again, I fully expected him to drop me home afterwards. But, he suggested I stay the night with him and I wasn't going to say no to an offer like that. Sunday morning was another highly pleasant sleep-in, followed by a stroll around Surry Hills and another bout of retail therapy! I ended up buying myself this funky hat which I am quite excited about now! He eventually dropped me back at my house, wearing mostly his clothes (as I hadn't been prepared for an all weekend stay) at around 2pm yesterday. It was such a lovely day that I then toddled on down to my local park and read the paper in the warm Spring sun. A perfect end to the weekend!


BUT, and there's a "but", whilst it was a very very good weekend, we did have a big chat on Saturday morning whilst lying in bed. He sincerely feels that he cannot give me any more than he is currently giving, which, for all intents and purposes, is a friendship with snuggling benefits. He doesn't think that he's able to embark on a romantic relationship with anyone at the moment and as much as he really likes me, does want to be upfront with me in this respect. Naturally, I'd like more with him as I am really attracted to him, and he knows that. But, after the debacle that was the Gent in Question in May/June, I have been quite cautious in opening up my emotions to early in the piece (and having them somewhat exploited). And so, I haven't been as affected as on previous occasions. He did fully expect that I wouldn't want to see him again, however I do actually like him - I think he's a great guy! I really get on with him, enjoy his company, his sense of humour, and his very hot body! he he he! I was only thinking this yesterday - with all the other guys that I've spent a weekend with, by the end of the weekend, I'm really feeling the need for some space, some Monty time. With Bruce, there wasn't that feeling at all...I would have happily stayed with him on Sunday, happily slept over Sunday night - I just am really relaxed around him! So, I am very open to continuing our friendship "as is". I think that what we have is as good as it's going to get and to be honest, I can't be unhappy with that. I would love it to be more, but I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth. He's concerned that my friends will think that he's taking advantage of me, in not allowing me to find a "real" boyfriend. But, I'm not particularly concerned about that...I have only 4 weeks to go before I go overseas and so I don't want to embark on a new relationship at this late stage. I'd much prefer to keep things as they are with him, our Friends with (snuggling) Benefits relationship and once I return from O/S, then start thinking about dating again. He's worried that our relationship is somewhat unorthodox, but you know, I've lived a very orthodox life up until a year ago, and so I don't really mind if it's a bit out there! Who cares! I've found a lovely guy, whose company I enjoy, who's fabulous to sleep with, who doesn't seem to mind hanging around me and who is, for want of a better description, a Clayton's boyfriend...the boyfriend you have when you don't have a boyfriend. Perfect for me at the moment, with my lack of motivation to date and limited timeframe. And the fact that we're not shagging isn't even particuarly worrying me either! Who'd have thought!!! It's been 3 weeks without it and I'm coping remarkably well!


So that's about it for the moment. I have had an awesome weekend, this week is a short one and this weekend is a long one! We're (McDreamy, Evan and myself and quite possibly Bruce) going down the coast to the beach house, and if the weather's like it was this past weekend, it will be FABULOUS!!!