tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523189070294871815.post5515130043499979210..comments2023-10-13T00:54:16.550+11:00Comments on Much Ado About Monty...: Oh what a weekend...!Montyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01535444453211857308noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523189070294871815.post-38922962368730015192007-02-20T21:04:00.000+11:002007-02-20T21:04:00.000+11:00Sorry Monty, my aim was to affirm your sense of no...Sorry Monty, my aim was to affirm your sense of not feeling part of the community. I guess I got too abstract.<BR/>Looking forward to hearing from you.Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15609315611426902554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523189070294871815.post-91365841726473086142007-02-20T13:44:00.000+11:002007-02-20T13:44:00.000+11:00Mardi gras is not for everyone! but you should exp...Mardi gras is not for everyone! but you should experience it at least once...you'll find your place in it..or out of it:)<BR/><BR/>There will be more events. Thanks for coming and glad you had fun!Single Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11469633941280686095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523189070294871815.post-24064000435034585922007-02-20T13:19:00.000+11:002007-02-20T13:19:00.000+11:00I agree, there are benefits to having the 'Gay Com...I agree, there are benefits to having the 'Gay Community' and I'm not disparaging it by any means! It does have a place as a support mechanism and yes, like you, is something I can dabble in. I certainly don't take it for granted, however that still does not alter the fact that I don't feel part of it.Montyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01535444453211857308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523189070294871815.post-67306978684386825662007-02-20T12:59:00.000+11:002007-02-20T12:59:00.000+11:00Community is an interesting concept – and to a cer...Community is an interesting concept – and to a certain degree that’s all it is, a concept. Like most other words it can be moulded by semantics. The gay community is a social construct and while many gay people choose to be a part of that and feel that it is a major part of their identity, like you, there are many that do not identify with the ‘Gay Community’. I was really pleased to hear you say what makes you gay is that you like other guys. That’s how I also identify as gay. What makes me gay is that I like having sex with men – and that is only a part of who I am (sometimes not as large a part as I would like!!).<BR/>Having said that I think there are benefits to having a ‘Gay Community’, probably because it is a minority within the larger community called ‘society’. It is something I like to dabble in from time to time and it’s good that it’s something we can move in and out of as the need/desire arises. I wonder if some people’s need to be a part of the gay community is a reflection of their struggle in coming out, or perhaps a reflection of their sense of strength and confidence, or lack thereof, in other parts of their lives? Hmmmm, I feel a PhD coming on!Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15609315611426902554noreply@blogger.com